Great Sex Tips for Male and Female to Improve Their Sexual Performance

The sensory pathways of touch, sight, hearing, smell and taste, besides keeping us attuned to our surroundings, play an important role in turning us on and enhancing sexual pleasure. If these sensory pathways are blocked owing to inhibitions or mental preoccupations, not only do we fail to enjoy sex, but diminished sensory perception can lead to impotency in the male and frigidity in the female. Hence the importance of knowing the functions of these emotion generators.

Sex Tip 1 - The touch of love
Of the five senses, the skin's sense of touch has a peculiarly vivid and explosive quality and differs from other sensations in arousing response. It is the most extensive sense, as the sensory organs of touch are distributed all over the body in the skin and the adjoining mucous membrane. The sensation of touch is of two types active and passive. If you touch your partner the sensations you feel are active sensations. On the other hand, if your partner touches you, it is termed a passive sensation. Both types of touch sensation are necessary to enhance sexual excitement and pleasure and lift sex from the level of the humdrum to the sublime. However, to feel these sensations normally or to be sensuous, the sensory center in the brain where these sensations are interpreted should be free and uninhibited.

Erogenous Zones: The whole body in both sexes, especially in women, sensitive and sensuous to touch. But certain touch spots stimulate greater desire than others and are termed EROGENIC or EROGENOUS ZONES. They are located mainly around the body openings the lips, the mouth, the outer side of the eye sockets, the ears, the vulva in the female, the penis in the male and the area around the anus, are all highly sensitive as they are richly supplied with nerves.

'EACH KISS A HEART QUAKE': Kissing with lip to lip contact brings into play the senses of touch, smell and taste. Erotic kissing is basically a Western form of love play. Orientals have the nasal kiss. There are different types of' kisses the kiss of love, kiss of affection, and parting kiss between friends. The first is mouth to mouth while the other two are usually on the cheek or forehead.

SENSITIVE EARS: In most sensual women, the ear is a highly erotic zone which when sucked, tickled, kissed or gently bitten makes them breathless with desire. Men are not generally aware of the tremendous arousal potential of the ears.

You can easily find out your own erogenous zones by your response to touch spots which when lightly touched or tickled by your partner give you maximum pleasure. Sensitivity varies from person to person and there are two ways in which your partner can discover zones which are sexually exciting and so give the utmost pleasure. Firstly, by trial and error, the male can discover the erogenous zones by employing different types of touch on his partner and observing her facial expressions. It is a time consuming method and I have known males who have spent years trying to find out what their partners wanted.

Second, ask your partner about her erogenous zones. Most women are shy and reticent but you could communicate to her your likes and desires which would help overcome her shyness and allow her to tell you, if not in words, by pointing with her hands, or as Vatsyayana says, by looking at the erogenous zones she would like to be stimulated.

In conclusion, touch is the mainspring for sexual stimulation. It kindles the flame of arousal into a ravaging fire of desire in both sexes, particularly the female. Dear male reader, you can occasionally dispense with touching, stroking, petting and caressing and be like an animal penetrating her with your erect penis. She may suffer such an assault silently, but remember that for rewarding sex there are no short cuts. You have to go through the whole works. This is because in a male, the seat of desire is his erect penis, but in a female, it is her whole body that is sensual and not merely her genitals. A normal individual can increase his sensuality by doing the recommended exercises whilst for persons suffering from sexual inadequacies (premature ejaculation, impotency and frigidity); the exercises form the sheet anchor for restoring normal sexual functioning.

Next to the sense of touch, visual sensations play an important role in turning us on. The sexual impact of first impressions is sometimes so powerful that it has won the name of love at first sight.

Mention must be made of the sexy parts of the female body which arouse strong desire in men. The breasts invariably attract attention, especially in an alluring her dress with a plunging neckline and exposed midriff.

Women on the other hand are attracted to tall, broad shouldered, virile men. However, there is a basic difference between the sexes. For most women, beauty in a male is mere surface attraction; they are drawn like magnets to gentleness, politeness and character.

VISUAL APPRECIATION OF MOVEMENT: Bodily movement, especially rhythm, is also very appealing to the eyes. A person who walks, sits and dances gracefully stirs the senses. The modern Western dances with the partners dancing separately opposite each other combine visual and audio effects. The slow and lilting older numbers the waltz and the fox trot with the partners holding each other close, gladden the senses of touch, sight and hearing.

Sex Tip 2 - 'Heard melodies are sweet' The ear has a particular biological role in animal mating. Observations on crickets have shown that the male produces the chirping sound and the female seeks him out. In man, hearing attains its highest utility in the sound of music and of speech.

Music is 'the food of love' says Shakespeare. A song or a tune often arouses emotions and desires and creates the right mood for love. The whispered intimacies between two people in love are very potent arousers. However, the haste and bustle of modern life are the greatest enemies of carefree sex. The so called 'quickie', a product of the Stress Century, has speeded up man's reactions. He is swiftly stimulated and quickly satisfied; but not so the female, except rarely. She likes her partner to talk to her, tell her how much he desires her, wants her and loves her. The sound of the three magic words 'I love you' genuinely said is sweet music to her ears and removes mountains of inhibition in her and gets her ready for sexual intimacy.

'THE MELTING VOICE': 'I fell for his sexy voice,' Malti, an advertising executive, said to me about her husband. 'You can never imagine what it does to me even if I hear it on the telephone. My bones turn to jelly. I pity the innumerable women who must be turned on just listening to him on the radio.'

Smell is a very potent sexual arouser in animals. Its role in humans is limited except in individuals of the olfactory type, in whom the sense of smell is (as in primitive man) more sexually pronounced. Nose tonose contact and inhalation or the nasal kiss is an important act of foreplay in Orientals.

Our body odors vary from individual to individual and differ also from race to race. The armpits and the genital organs in both sexes have their peculiar body odor, which is more pronounced in females, especially during a period. Modern man with his soaps and deodorants has lost the ability to be naturally turned on by smelling his partner. He relies mainly on colognes and after shave lotions and the female partner on perfumes artificial arousers of the sense of smell.

DISAGREEABLE BODY ODORS: Rancid sweat and bad breath in either partner is off putting to both sexes. Many men think it is masculine to jump into bed with their partner without a bath after a day's sweating at the office. Similarly, many females are blissfully unaware of the repelling odor from their armpits or during a period when they have not paid enough attention to personal hygiene like washing and changing pads frequently. Some women do not bathe during a period, thinking it might harm them. Nothing is further from the truth. A bath is more essential at this time and does no harm.

Sex Tip 4 -PHEROMONES are chemicals with scents that influence the sexual behavior of animals. For example, the sex pheromone in female animals attracts the males from miles around. Men use different types of after shave lotions to turn on females. A search is on to isolate the normal pheromones in males. A British research team at the University of Warwick is reported to have isolated from the sweat, a natural pheromone smelling like sandalwood oil which will 'create between people, even strangers, immediate empathy, if used like a cologne.'

Sex Tip 5 -Taste the beautiful: Like the sense of smell, very few individuals experience the taste of their beloved. The lip to lip and tongue kiss is a cocktail of three sensations touch, smell and taste. Dr. Van de Velde in his pioneer book Ideal Marriage writes about 'the individual flavor of a beloved's kisses' of the ancient Romans. 'For instance, the kisses of Poppoea, Nero's second wife, are described as tasting of wild berries.' The clitoris when licked with the tongue is saltiest in taste.

The sensual partner: The single characteristic which distinguishes a good lover from an ordinary one is sensuality. Such a man is emotionally mature, confident in his powers and believes in reciprocal pleasure in sex. The key to great sex does not just depend upon technique or how long you can carry on, or how handsome you are.