How to have sex

In the male the erect penis is the yardstick of arousal. It takes place naturally when you are turned on and is not under the control of the will. For example, if you say to yourself, 'I will have an erection' or 'I must have an erection', you will never get one In a normal man it takes place as spontaneously as breathing, when he is aroused. Arousal in the male is almost instantaneous in the younger age group but takes a little longer with advancing age.

In older men it may take still longer, sometimes necessitating female fondling. Arousal in the female is much slower and is a complicated multi channel process; unlike the single channel arousal in the male. Her whole body is sensual or sensitive to stimulation, the sex and accessory organs being more responsive. The effect of arousal is concentrated in the penis in the male whilst in the female it is more diffused or generalized all over her body. The response to sexual stimulation varies from region to region. When aroused, both partners go through four stages: (1) Excitement, (2) Plateau, (3) Orgasm, and (4) Resolution.

The female is slower in her responses than the male and therefore it is the duty of every male to arouse the female thoroughly, so she can also be an active participant, enjoying intimacy. It is imperative that the male should not consider his partner a mere robot but should arouse her artfully. It is important to realise that all or most of us have certain requirements before we are turned on and can engage in sex. If these prerequisites are not met in either partner, the male is unable to get an erection and the female does not enjoy sex or become orgasmic. You may ask in surprise if anything is at all necessary to get a good erection? The fantasyland culture has made you believe that erection is automatic and a sideways look at a female is enough for your penis to get erect. If this were so, there would be no sexual inadequacy and no necessity to study sex manuals. Unfortunately, it is not all that simple. The penis was never meant to perform without prerequisites, except for a few men who function mechanically when they are anxious or under stress or unduly worried.

The woman also has her own special requirements before she can be orgasmic. For example, just before orgasm she may require her nipple or her ear bitten hard by her partner. A liberated lady professed the woman on top position for satisfactory sex. Surprising as it may seem, there are women who only enjoy sex if their male partner beats them prior to coitus.To have sex ,the male should complete Foreplay, Kissing, Clitoral Stimulation, Breast Stimulation, Erotic Massage, Fingering and Cunnilingus.

Better Sex Positions

Variety is the spice of life and sex with the same partner in the same Sex Position can be as monotonous and boring.Kamasutra author Vatsyayana and other ancient scholars describe over 20 different positions and attitudes in which the partners can indulge in sex. They recommend different positions for close fit communion, when the vagina is large and does not firmly grip the male penis, and when the vagina is small and the penis is large. Normal couples will find some positions described by Vatsyayana very difficult as they require extreme mobility of the body joints. Such sexual acrobatics are better left out! A couple should only indulge in positions they find easy and enjoyable. The best sex positions are: (1)missionary Position,(2) woman on top and (3)Rear Entry Position .Needless to say, there are different attitudes or variations in each of these positions to enhance erotic pleasure and increase the joy of union.Learn more about other sex positions.
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Male and Female Orgasm

The most significant difference in the orgasm of the two sexes is ejaculation in the male while there is no emission in the female. The male is quicker in reaching an orgasm, its duration is shorter and he returns to normal more quickly than the female whose orgasm lasts much longer and is slower to come on and return to normal; some women enjoy the orgasmic thrill for hours afterwards. The other difference is that while the male almost always reaches an orgasm, only about 30 per cent of females have an orgasm every time. The male can reach an orgasm during intercourse only once while the female is capable of a single or multiple orgasms during the same intercourse, or often none at all.

The female experiences a greater variety of orgasms in intensity and duration as compared to the male. Dr. Masters has called the sexual experience in the male as 'a rose is a rose sort of thing', while in the female it 'goes all the way from poppies to orchids.' In other words,the female may have a very mild orgasm of short duration or an explosive one continuing for some length of time. Dr. Masters maintains that in terms of intensity and duration, all males experience the same kind of orgasm, though the pleasure they derive may differ from partner to partner. Many sexologists have challenged Dr. Masters' observations and Barnard Zilbergal in Men and Sex states that 'men are capable of variety in duration and intensity like the female. There are many males whose orgasmic experience varies from orgasm to orgasm.'Learn more about male orgasm. and female orgasm

Male and Female Masturbation

MASTURBATION OR AUTO MANIPULATION is one form of sexual outlet and may be defined as self stimulation of the genital organs. Masturbation also occurs in domesticated animals when there is no opportunity for natural sexual outlet. It is universal in both sexes from childhood to old age. According to Dr. Alfred Kinsey, the pioneer researcher in human sexual behaviour, 92 per cent of the American population is involved in masturbation. While in a more recent study of male sexuality by the noted author of the Hite Report, Shere Hite, only one per cent of 7239 men who answered her questionnaire did not masturbate. Those who do not masturbate are from the beginning involved in heterosexual intercourse or their sex drive may be so low they do not feel the necessity for a sexual outlet through masturbation. In Europe and America, masturbation is a stepping stone to intercourse with a female. In the East, up to recent times, the joint family system prevailed and marriages took place early, so masturbation was unnecessary. But conditions have changed, the joint family system is disintegrating, the age of marriage in men has gone up, therefore masturbation is more prevalent. Masturbation is more common among teens.There is no normal sexual outlet for this large floating male population. Where there is opportunity for normal sexual union at puberty, as among the primitive tribes, masturbation is unknown.Most of the doctors suggests that masturbation is normal,natural sexual outlet and it never harmFor everything there is a limit. 2 or 3 times per week is normal.But most of the teens are doing masturbation 2 or 3 times within a day.It should be avoided.Learn more about Female masturbation and mutual masturbation.

Male and Female Infertility

One out of every six couples in America is infertile, and this is a skyrocketing statistic more than twice as high as it was ten years ago. If any other disease showed such an overwhelming surge, the National Institute of Health would have proclaimed an epidemic and thrown medical centers around the nation into a frenzy of research in a desperate attempt to stem the tide. Yet this has not happened. Though widely discussed in the popular press, infertility is pushed under the carpet in the offices where research funding is distributed. The scientific investigation of infertility has an uneasy place in a world threatened with overpopulation.

People seeking help for infertility problems are sometimes viewed as traitors to the rest of humankind, fighting nature's process of natural selection. But the rest of humankind already has children. Some people believe that infertile couples should not have children because there is something genetically wrong with them. If fertility specialists make it possible for the couple to conceive, won't the offspring be riddled with birth defects? For the vast majority, infertility has nothing to do with genetics.

Infertility is a problem shared equally by women and men: 35 percent of the time the cause can be traced to the female partner, 35 percent of the time it can be traced to the male partner, and 20 percent of the time both partners have a fertility problem. For the remaining 10 percent of infertile couples there is no traceable problem.

In women, infertility is most often caused by faulty hormonal signals or obstructions within or around the reproductive organs. In men, the most common cause of infertility is a swollen vein in the testicle. In only 2 percent of all infertile couples can the disease be traced to a chromosomal defect, and these couples are unable to conceive under any circumstances. Genetic defects are passed along in the "normal" fertile population just as frequently as they are in the "abnormal" infertile population.Learn more about causes of infertlity, Male infertlity and Female infertlity.

Sexual Organs

The first ground rule for both sexes is knowledge about your genital organs and their functions. A lot of ignorance about sexual anatomy still prevails. Know your own as well as your partner's anatomy thoroughly. You can always tell her that you would like to look at her 'down there'. She may initially resist but on repeated pleadings she will ultimately permit you. Know about anatomy and physiology of the male sex organ Penis, Testes and female sexual organs Vulva, Vagina,Hymen and Clitoris.

Male Sexual Problems - Impotence (Erectle Dysfunction) and Premature Ejaculation

It is now recognised that the foundation of healthy sexuality must be laid in the cradle and sex treated as part of general character-building. Because once sexual inadequacy such as psychogenic impotence sets in, although treatment can restore sexual functioning, it is not quite normal.The man suffering from impotence is frustrated,anxious and depressed,as he has tried every remedy under the sun -pills and potions,hormone injections,extract of pearls and diamonds.He is excited and aroused and wants a sexual encounter,but his penis remains limp and lifeless.Learn more about Impotence or Erectile Dysfunction.

PREMATURE EJACULATION OR ejaculation praecox is the most frequent dysfunction in the male and is characterised by sudden ejaculation of the semen, just prior to or immediately after vaginal penetration during coitus. The word praecox means premature or 'before time'. In other words, it is a condition where the man has no voluntary control over his ejaculation. He is quick on the trigger once he starts intercourse.Learn more about Premature Ejaculation.

Female Sexual Problems - Vaginal Dryness and Low Lipido

Male Sexual Enhancement

In applying the principles of therapeutic immunology to sexual matters we tend to encounter two fairly different kinds of cases, the general and the specific.The general cases are those where there has been slight or marked loss of sexual function but where this is only part of an overall, more widespread deterioration of other faculties. This is the picture commonly presented by those suffering from the usual aging pattern. It is also seen where there is a general debility preceding or following illness, injury, or some kinds of intensive medical therapy. In treating these cases a great deal of attention can and should be paid to the wishes of the patients themselves. The most common male sexual enhancement techniques are discussed here.
Penis Enlargement:There are those men and women who attach a great deal of importance to Penis size . An entirely fallacious idea has been deliberately encouraged in recent years. it is one of those sexual myths and legends.Penis enlargement exercises by using some traction devices may help to enlarge penis.Hormone replacement therapy is the best option to enhance sexual performance.Prescription drugs like Viagra,Levitra and Cialis are used to improve blood circulation in penis.But heart patients should avoid this medication.Without prescription do not buy or use.