Fantasies about Sex

Most men who boast have some inferiority about their sexual performance. The real sexual giants who are confident about their sexual prowess are usually not prone to cataloguing their achievements in company. The erotic woman in 'Fantasyland' is supposed to respond with push button frequency to volcanic, earthquake like orgasms. One would imagine the seismograph would record shocks of great intensity when she is orgasmic! In actual practice, she is completely disillusioned after imagining that sex is sublime and nothing sensational happened. No doubt, orgasm is a very pleasurable experience, but it is not what she imagined. Is there something wrong or lacking in her, she wonders?

Women by nature are not used to talking about their sexual exploits. They are always more reticent and discreet, unlike the male who after a drink in him, catalogues his sexual conquests as if he has been decorated.

The myths regarding the female are basically different from those about the male. In general, age and appearance are mainly responsible for them the younger the better. The attractive female has more sex appeal than the plain Jane. Women are also worried about the size, appearance and elasticity of their breasts, whether they are firm or loose and sagging after childbirth. Fantasies about sex and orgasm are also prevalent in the female. The media have projected that the rougher the sex, the better for her, and innumerable women accept it as a part of their lives though they suffer pain and anguish and crave for gentleness in love. But the emancipated female expects to be orgasmic during sex in fact, wants multiple orgasms.

The other basic difference is that a man in general is performance oriented in every walk of life, especially sex. His erect penis is the yardstick by which he judges results. He takes any deviation from his ideal model very badly and thinks that he is impotent. A woman, on the other hand, is not usually performance oriented and even if she does not reach the mind shattering orgasm, it is not the end of the world for her. The whole sexual experience is enjoyable for her and not just its termination the orgasm; while for the male, the end point of intercourse, ejaculation, is the most sought after moment.